Meet Dr. Kathleen Reay

Dr. Kathleen M. Reay is an internationally recognized sub-specialist in high-conflict divorce, parental alienation, parent-child estrangement, child psychological abuse and related trauma. She has testified in the United States and Canada. This year marks her first case testifying in Europe.

Dr. Reay’s 2007 published doctoral dissertation on the long-term effects of Parental Alienation was titled Psychological Distress Among Adult Children of Divorce Who Perceive Experiencing Parental Alienation Syndrome in Earlier Years. Her data analysis of this quantitative research study supported the scientific validity of parental alienation and sadly concluded that adult children of divorce victimized by parental alienation in childhood and/or adolescence experience a lifetime of mental health conditions.

As a scholar-practitioner in the discipline of psychology, Dr. Reay has vigorously discovered ways to help prevent children from experiencing the long-term consequences of parental alienation. She developed the Family Reflections Model and is the Founder and Clinical Director of the Family Reflections Reunification Program Inc. This highly specialized program is the first of its kind worldwide and draws families from the United States and Canada, with interest being shown as well in some parts of Europe. As traditional therapeutic approaches have proven not to work in severe parental alienation cases, Dr. Reay designed the Family Reflections Program to rely on an integrated, multi-disciplinary team of mental health professionals throughout the United States and Canada to work with this specialized population. The Family Reflections Program has a proven 95% success rate in re-establishing a healthy relationship within a very short period of time between severely alienated children/youths and their rejected parent.

Her newest peer-reviewed scholarly article is titled Family Reflections: A Promising Therapeutic Program Designed to Treat Severely Alienated Children and Their Family System (in press, American Journal of Family Therapy, Volume 43, Issue 2, pages 197-207, 2015). Dr. Reay is currently conducting two additional research studies on this topic.

Dr. Reay is an invited keynote speaker at the upcoming International Symposium on Parental Alienation, May 28-29, 2015, at the Belgium Federal Parliament in Brussels, Belgium. Subsequently, June 4-5, 2015, Dr. Reay is presenting a two-day training program for mental health and social service providers in Leuven, Belgium titled Effective Clinical Assessments and Therapeutic Interventions for Alienated Children and Their Family Members.  For more information about these two events, contact Petra Van Den Hoeck at

Dr. Reay participated in the October 2014 Parental Alienation Symposium sponsored by the International Support Network For Alienated Families (ISNAF) held in Long Beach, California. From there, she was on a prestigious panel of experts at the first-ever U.S. parental alienation colloquium held in Long Beach, California. The purpose of the first annual colloquium was “to unite key leaders in the parental alienation community and create an organized drive to change the system that currently allows emotional harm and abuse to children by alienation” (ISNAF website).

In 2013, Dr. Reay was the first-ever mental health professional invited to speak on the significant link between domestic violence, intimate partner abuse and parental alienation at the Canadian Domestic Violence Conference-3 in Toronto, Ontario. In previous years, she has been an invited keynote speaker at other prestigious events, including, but not limited to, the 2011 Canadian Symposium for Parental Alienation Syndrome in Montreal, Quebec and the People for People Conference in Edmonton, Alberta in 2012.

Dr. Reay is a founding member of the Parental Alienation Study Group Non-Profit Corporation’s Board of Directors, Nashville, Tennessee and the Editor (US and Canada) of the Parental Alienation International Newsletter for the International Parental Alienation Study Group, Nashville, Tennessee. In 2014, Dr. Reay was appointed to the Editorial Board of the American Journal of Family Therapy, Taylor & Francis Group, New York.

Dr. Reay is also the Founder and Director of the International Institute for Parental Alienation Studies (IIPAS), an exceptional research institute and online learning program for alienated parents, extended family members, and professionals. Her book called Toxic Divorce: A Workbook for Alienated Parents won 2 International Book Awards in 2012 – 1st Place Winner in the Parenting/Family: Divorce category and Award-Winning Finalist in the Self-Help: Relationships category.  For your convenience, the book is available to purchase on this website or through all major global online bookstores including Amazon and Barnes & Noble.

Dr. Reay conducts seminars throughout North America. She also receives many inquiries regarding her availability as a consultant, evaluator, trial consultant and expert witness in matters relating to child custody, trauma, parental alienation and estrangement.

Educational Background

Dr. Reay’s educational background includes a Ph.D. in psychology, M.A. in Counselling Psychology, B.A. in Psychology, and a Post-Baccalaureate Certificate in Family Studies. In 2013, she earned a Fellowship Credential with the American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress (AAETS) in recognition of her experience in working with high-conflict families and the relationship between child psychological abuse and severe parental alienation. In 2010, she was honored to achieve Diplomate status with the AAETS. The Diplomate distinction is a prestigious credential that was awarded to Dr. Reay by the AAETS in recognition of her experience in working with numerous survivors of traumatic events and/or crisis management, as well as for her knowledge, training and level of education. Dr. Reay has also been certified in basic and advanced EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing) training for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and other psychological issues. She’s also certified in Critical Incident Stress Management by the International Critical Incident Stress Foundation. She strongly believes in lifelong learning.


  • Association of Family & Conciliation Courts
  • American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress
  • Fellowship & Diplomate Credentials with the American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress in collaboration with the National Center for Crisis Management
  • Canadian Psychological Association
  • American Psychological Association
  • B.C. Association of Clinical Counsellors (#1889)
  • EMDR Canada
  • EMDR Institute, Inc., USA (EMDRIA)
  • Global Parental Alienation Study Group
  • National Center for Crisis Management


Dr. Kathleen Reay is a well-loved speaker whose practical ideas and wealth of experience make her presentations both valuable and enjoyable. She has been a guest speaker on television and radio talk shows in Canada and the United States. Her work has also been featured in scholarly peer-reviewed publications, scholarly books, regional newspapers and a nation-wide parent educators’ magazine. Dr. Reay and her husband have been happily married for over three decades and live in both Canada and the United States. They have two adult daughters, four grandchildren and three pets – 2 yellow lab’s and a kitten. Dr. Reay is available as an evaluator, expert witness, consultant, reunification therapist, and for print, radio, and television interviews. To inquire about her availability and all services she offers, please telephone or email our office. To schedule a consultation, please click here.

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