Meet Dr. Kathleen Reay


Dr. Kathleen Reay has over 24 years cumulative experience providing assessments, counselling, reunification therapy, parent education, consulting, program development, and guest speaking. In private practice Dr. Reay has gained extensive experience with a wide variety of personal and relationship problems which are reflected in the scope of services offered. She is an expert on High-Conflict Divorce, Parental Alienation, Estrangement and Child-Related Trauma. Please click on ” Services”  for more information regarding her services and how she may help you.

In 2007, Dr. Reay conducted a published research study on the long-term effects of Parental Alienation Syndrome. She is currently conducting two other research studies on the topic. Her book  called Toxic Divorce: A Workbook for Alienated Parents was honored twice at the 2012 International Book Awards, Los Angeles, California – 1st Place Winner in the “Parenting/Family: Divorce” category and Award-Winning Finalist in the “Self-Help: Relationships” category. Toxic Divorce: A Workbook for Alienated Parents is available for purchase on this website, at various bookstores and through all major online bookstores globally.

Dr. Reay is a popular international trainer and keynote speaker at prestigious conferences. For example, she was a keynote speaker at the 2013 Canadian Domestic Violence- 3 Conference in Toronto, Ontario and at the 2011 Canadian Symposium for Parental Alienation Syndrome in Montreal, Quebec. Dr. Reay provides continuing education training opportunities (seminars and online courses) for mental health and social service providers. Her most popular 2-3 day course is called ”Effective Clinical Assessments and Therapeutic Interventions for Alienated Children and Their Family Members”. She also provides training courses for legal professionals called “Parental Alienation: It’s Not Business As Usual for Therapeutic Interventions and the Court Process”.

Keeping her passion alive, Dr. Reay is also the Founder and Clinical Director of the Family Reflections Reunification Program Inc., an innovative reunification program for severely alienated children and their family members. This unique program is the first of its kind in Canada. In two pilot studies the program revealed a 95% success rate in reestablishing a relationship between the child(ren) and the alienated parent.  For more information please see

In 2011, Dr. Reay became the Founder and Director of the International Institute for Parental Alienation Studies (IIPAS), an exceptional research institute and online learning program for alienated parents, extended family members, and professionals. See for more information.  She also receives many inquiries regarding her availability as a consultant, evaluator, trial consultant and expert witness in matters relating to child custody, trauma, estrangement and parental alienation.

Educational Background

Dr. Reay’s educational background includes a Ph.D. in psychology, M.A. in counselling psychology, B.A. in psychology, and a Post-Baccalaureate Certificate in Family Studies. In 2010, she was honored to achieve Diplomate status with the American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress (AAETS). The Diplomate distinction is a prestigious credential that was awarded to Dr. Reay by the AAETS in recognition of her experience in working with numerous survivors of traumatic events and/or crisis management, as well as for her knowledge, training and level of education. Dr. Reay has also been certified in basic and advanced EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing) training for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and other psychological issues, plus is also certified in Critical Incident Stress Management by the International Critical Incident Stress Foundation. Dr. Reay believes in life-long learning and continues to take many advanced courses in modern approaches to psychotherapy so that she can remain current with the best possible ways to help her clients.

Professional Memberships

  •  Association of Family and Conciliation Courts
  •  Canadian Psychological Association
  •  American Psychological Association
  •  B.C. Association of Clinical Counsellors
  •  EMDR Canada
  •  EMDR Institute, Inc., USA (EMDRIA)
  •  National Center for Crisis Management
  •  American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress
  •  Diplomate Status with the American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress in   collaboration with the National Center for Crisis Management


Dr. Reay is a well-loved speaker whose practical ideas, wealth of experience, and great sense of humor make her speaking engagements both valuable and enjoyable. She has been a live guest on various U.S. and Canadian television and radio shows.  Her work has also been cited in other experts’ peer-reviewed scientific journal articles on parental alienation, other experts’ books on parental alienation, newspapers and other media sources. Dr. Kathleen and her husband have been happily married for over three decades, have two adult daughters, three grandchildren, and three pets – 2 yellow lab’s and a cat.

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